Ten things we wish we had done earlier (when nothing felt urgent)
- Apr 25
- 3 min read
Reflections from members of our Lived Experience Advisory Panel (LEAP)
When everything feels steady, it is very easy to put things off.
There is no crisis. Nothing is forcing your hand. Life is simply carrying on.
And yet, it is often later, when things change, that we realise how little we had in place.
These reflections come from conversations with members of our community. Not about expecting the worst, but about the small, practical things that might have made life feel calmer, clearer, and more manageable when change did come.
1. We wish we had sorted Power of Attorney sooner
It can take longer than you think, and it is much easier to do when it still feels like a practical decision rather than an emotional one.
Where possible, it can also help to register it early with banks and financial providers, so it is ready to use if and when it is needed.
2. We wish we had written things down
A will, a letter of wishes, or even simple notes about what matters to you. For example, whether you would prefer burial or cremation, or where you would like your ashes scattered.
It is not about being formal. It is about making things easier for the people around you later on, when you may not be able to share your wishes.
3. We wish we had kept everything in one place
Important documents, account details, key contacts.
Not hidden. Not scattered.
And crucially, that someone else knew where they were.
Some people find it helpful to keep a simple, up to date list of assets and liabilities alongside key documents, including passwords, renewal dates and important contacts.
4. We wish we had understood each other’s roles
In many relationships, things are shared, but not always equally.
One person pays the bills. Another manages the shopping. Someone else handles the admin.
It is only when that changes that you realise how much you did not know, particularly when it comes to things like cooking or online banking.
5. We wish we had made small changes at home earlier
Better lighting. Clearer spaces. Things within easier reach. A downstairs bathroom where possible.
Simple safety features such as alarms, keypads or video doorbells can also bring reassurance.
Nothing dramatic, just small adjustments that make everyday life easier.
6. We wish we had got comfortable with alternatives
Using online shopping. Understanding transport options. Getting used to simple technology.
It is much easier to learn these things when you have choice, rather than when you feel under pressure.
7. We wish we had thought about driving sooner
Driving is tied up with independence, identity and freedom.
But confidence, mental capacity and eyesight can change, sometimes quite quickly.
Having other options already in place, such as local bus services or voluntary driving schemes, can make that shift feel less like a loss.
8. We wish we had checked the details no one talks about
How the house is owned. Whether someone could access accounts.Where passwords are kept.
These things often only become visible when something changes, and by then it can be stressful.
9. We wish we had explored care options earlier
Not because we needed them straight away, but because understanding what is available brings peace of mind.
Situations can change quickly, and family may not always be able to step in immediately.
Some people found reassurance in knowing which local providers or care homes could assess and arrange support at short notice, and what it might cost.
10. We wish we had not waited to prioritise what brings us joy
It is easy to focus on the practical.
But the things that bring you joy, whether that is hobbies, routines, friendships or small pleasures, matter just as much.
Do not leave them for later.
If you would like to talk it through
If you live nearby, you are always welcome to pop into Good Company HQ.
We created HQ because when something starts to feel uncertain, you should not have to wait weeks or navigate it alone.
We can help you think things through gently, at your pace. You might also prefer to join a Circle and meet others who understand.
No pressure. Just a conversation, and the reassurance that you are not alone.
